When we experience a life-changing event -- well, that's exactly what happens: life changes. There's a space between who you were and who you're becoming -- and it can feel disorienting. Sometimes it's quiet, a gentle pull at a thread you can neither identify nor ignore. Sometimes it's as if a giant wave caught you off guard and knocked the wind out of you. I've experienced both kinds -- the devastating loss of loved ones that turned me inside out and my world upside down, an